I have received quite a bit of interesting feedback on my October post, Cutting Remarks: How a woman’s hair length affects her brand. Some from females upset or offended with my decision to cut my hair, some supporting my new look… but the most interesting was a post I received Monday from Matt. Matt is one of many individuals that I’ve encountered that share his beliefs – and I would like to take the opportunity to respond to some of his statements.
“I am constantly amazed that women who work in marketing do NOT know how to sell things to men.”
Having short or long hair does not make me (or any other woman) any less capable in the workplace. As a matter of fact, I’vs experienced more political success in the workplace after cutting my hair – including with the males in my office.
“If I was a business owner and I knew that longer hair on females was more attractive to men, then I would expect anyone I hired to do marketing to exploit this fact. Most men do NOT prefer a woman who has short hair and looks like one of the boys. If you work for or with men you WILL notice a preference for women who have longer hair. They will get more “attention” than those with short hair.”
I think you may be confusing working in a business setting from working in the adult industry. Perhaps if I was looking to have sex with my coworkers I would take your advice. Despite what you may think, most women go to work for the paycheck – NOT for attention from men.
“… men view women with short hair as being on a power trip or having a bias against what men typically prefer in an attractive woman… Women who deny their femininity by dressing like males send the signal that they are insecure as a women. “
Let’s first address the power trip issue. Clearly a woman much smarter than you made you cry. I’m sorry that your feelings were hurt, but that doesn’t mean that every woman with short hair deliberately cut her hair to establish dominance. Honestly, I felt more power over men (in the way you’ve defined it before) when I had my long hair. They weren’t always listening to what I had to say – but I typically had control in the situation.
Next, a woman does not need to wear pink dresses and have long hair to be feminine. Marilyn Monroe is one of the most idealized examples of femininity in our culture – and she looked stunning with her short hair. Twenty other beautiful, confident, and feminine women are listed to the right of this post for additional consideration to this sexist and backwards standpoint. I personally feel the most sexy and confident wearing only a little make-up and a sleek pantsuit.
Additionally, according to your beliefs, any man wearing pastel colors or having long hair must not be masculine. This means that Thor, Conan the Barbarian, Troy Polamalu, Ted Nugent, Clay Matthews III, and Gene Simmons are super feminine. Especially Gene Simmons – that guy wears heels and makeup like a giant chick.
“It is much easier to work around someone that is attractive than it is to work around someone who could fit right in with the alternative lifestyle crowd.”
Why would the ability to get work completed be impacted by the physical appearance of those around you. Only 20% of your IT coworkers would be female according to a 2013 National Public Radio report, so perhaps you should be more concerned with what your male associates are wearing than the occasional female that you’re lucky enough to encounter in your workplace.
Now, I’m going to assume that you’re using “alternative lifestyle crowd” to mean homosexual. First, let’s make it clear that a person’s hair length has NOTHING to do with their sexual orientation. My lesbian friends didn’t chop off all of their hair when they came out of the closet – and now that I’m thinking about it, nearly all of them have long flowing hair. Some even like skirts and the color pink – those crazy crazy women. Secondly, I would like to suggest that you reflect on your own sexuality to see where these aggressive and angry beliefs against the “alternative lifestyle crowd” may be coming from. Psychological studies find that most individuals exhibiting this type of behavior are more likely to be attracted to members of the same sex. Just something to think about…
Thank you again, Matt, for your comments. I am now going to eat the dinner my boyfriend prepared. The hot former Marine Sergeant boyfriend that fought for your freedom to have your own opinions (“even if they’re stupid” – his words, not mine).